Since it wouldn’t be a secret they had received donor assistance, Sara and Marie agreed to select an ID Release donor. That way, their child would have the option to contact the donor as a grown-up. Another appealing advantage of an ID Release donor is that some provide adult photos. This allowed the aspiring mothers to select a donor with a physical likeness they preferred. The couple created user profiles with a number of sperm banks, and over several weeks, they carefully went through all of the available donor profiles that included adult photos. Without telling one another the donors they preferred, it was time to compare favourites. It turned out they had both shortlisted the same two donors from two different sperm banks. Although it was a tough decision between the two as far as physical appearance was concerned, eventually, they chose donor Sahr because Donor-Network only accepts candidates with an average IQ or higher. 

As Sara and Marie didn’t like the idea of being treated like patients, they chose insemination by a midwife over treatment at a big fertility clinic. They contacted Storkereden, a Donor-Network partner clinic in Slagelse, as they’d heard positive things about them from others within the LGBT community. After scheduling a consultation, they met Louise – a midwife and head-of-clinic at Storkereden. After a preliminary conversation, they felt they could trust her to guide them through their life-changing experience.  

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After two unsuccessful attempts with insemination, Sara and Marie approached the third attempt with a mix of hope and apprehension. Several weeks later, they were relieved and delighted when a little ‘plus’ sign popped up in their pregnancy test. The soon-to-be mothers were elated. 

They decided to wait until after the first ultrasound scan before sharing the news with friends and family. On the day of their appointment, although they were understandably nervous, they were more excited than anything. Their feelings turned to pure joy when they saw their baby flicker on-screen for the first time. The precious image solidified the fact that their dreams of parenthood were finally becoming a reality.